Can You Forgive and Forget ?
Can you forgive and forget if someone or anyone hurt your feeling slightly or deeply ? It is merely impossible to simply accept the hurt and just let guilty one get away. However, holding feelings of resentment can affect your
peace of mind and ruin your happiness. Therefore, you can’t afford to let the
anger remain within you. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off
your mind needs to be worked upon, since it doesn’t come easy.
Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you, by other
people. Stacking up hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow
you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on
something that cannot be changed now. Live in the present, look forward to the
future and bury the bad memories of the past.
Sometimes, we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that
we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when
things cool down. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt
you, it becomes easier to forgive him/her. It is important to open the communication channel and realize that conversation will allow the other person to
offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the
same. Therefore, make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication
completely.
Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us
don’t hurt others intentionally, for sadistic reasons. If you can accept this
premise, forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget,
even after you have forgiven the other person. While moving on is easier said
than done, for all the comprehensible reasons, never forget that time is the
biggest healer.
Remember, once you forgive and forget, you have won the challenge and peacefulness remains in your heart and mind where you start to see things differently from other perspective and more confident of moving ahead to accept more challenges in your daily life.
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